Maybe when young children they start saying they want to get married. Are you serious? Do you know what it takes to be a spouse? Do you know a quality need to be a spouse? There are qualities to be a spouse or a person qualifies to be a husband or a wife. Many people are sexually active or say they’re ready to be a father or they want to be a mother or they’re just sexually active. No, that’s not the material worth being a spouse.
Firstly, you need to know how to communicate. You need to know how to talk to someone. If don’t know how to communicate how will you accommodate the other person?
Second, you need to have patient. Be patient where as you need to know how to respond. There will be problems, there will be issues. How will do you address them? Be responsible. There is good term about responsible. They say the man who is responsible is he able to respond. Whenever things go bad he can responds properly or in a proper way which is in an able fashion. If you don’t have patient you’ll end up divorcing people or end up not realizing that the problem can be resolve. The matters can be resolve. You need to be slightly selfless, don’t be selfish. If you’re selfish, you’re not going to get along with the best of the best globe. If you don’t learn to accommodate others, you may not ready to get married. You may need to do things that you may not ideally like to do. You need to understand that sometimes, you may not like certain things but we must make sure that we make our folk happy by engaging and participating in what makes the happy.
Another thing is you need to be very kind. Be kind in a lot different ways. You need to be generous. Be kind need to start at home.
If you don’t have these qualities, really you are not ready to get married yet. So, you need to develop your characteristics, your qualities, have feeling within you and have mercy. If you don’t have mercy within you, the other person may will not. You won’t achieve the mercy of Allah. Allah says that Allah does not have mercy upon those who don’t mercy on others. So, learn to be merciful. Even, when your marriage going through turbulence. Even if you breaking up and through a divorced. Be conscious of the almighty. Make sure you have the fear Allah so that will prevent you from oppressing someone.
So, make sure we developed this way prior to us getting married. Huhu actually, I write about this when I came across to the video lectures of Mufti Menk. Basically, I just transcribe his word.
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